The American culture believes that love* is a variable mix of infatuation, romance, physical intimacy, preference, altruism, and/or warm friendship.
Everyone may experience American cultural love, but the American understanding of love is totally misleading for the Christian when they think God means American ‘love’, when actually God means something entirely different.
For example: God says, “Love your enemies.” Matthew 5:44 ESV
It is absurd to think that God wants you to be infatuated with your enemy. Nor does he expect us to be romantic and physically intimate with our enemy. How can we think God wants us to prefer our enemy?
The American culture will not change their usage of ‘love’, but the Christian can change and understand what God says and then understand what God expects and what He will bless.
God gives us a definition of love that is quite different than what our culture believes.
The Bible says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a ESV
It is possible to sincerely love our enemy, as God directs, once we understand what God means. All of our words and thoughts and actions toward our enemy can be loving when we are willing to love them the way God loves them.
Think about it, the implications are vast.
*When I use the word love on this blog I mean the definition of the Greek word ‘agape’. When I want to use the meaning of ‘phileo’, I will make it plain.